In the past spouses were selected through a communal consensus!! "The wisdom of the elders often bring about very strong marriages without consulting the stars or written words" according to a senior member of the community. Today young people fall in love but a happy marriage results when the two families agree to the union. An unwelcome son in law or daughter in law often create a lot of conflict . And furthermore some couples do "kahwin cowboy" (elope) but that's another story.
This special wedding is much anticipated because the two families are very happy with their children's choice and is blessed by the whole long house.
This is the beautiful Ulu Limbang from the top of a hill near Rumah Aling.
One of the kampongs along the Limbang River...serene and down in the valley.
The team of wedding organisers had to cross a river to fetch the buffalo. They parked they hilux on theopposite bank of the river .
A buffalo has been chosen and paid for @ RM2000 special friend's price..It is usually more than that....This buffalo farm is 2 hours by road from rh. Aling.
How many Ibans are needed to pull a buffalo out of his shed?
Uncle Laman bathing the buffalo. How tame is this animal?
The buffalo has been slaughtered. The bride's father is Agan ( centre)
Preparing to take out the innards
The team bringing the slaughtered buffalo back to the long house..another two hours' journey.
Part of the journey home.
Preparation for the feast
The Gotong Royong
Parts of the buffalo
Even a young boy is helping out...well prepared wood pieces..
The BBQ section
The temporary wood fire kitchen built just outside the Ruai...
The prepared food in the Indian Curry Pots
The Pansoh section (Bamboo section) manned by ladies...
The beautiful bride getting ready to walk towards the "bridal" stage for the nuptial blessing.
|Family photo..the groom's family..Meripa's son is married to Agan's daughter...|
This has been a grand communal effort..the whole valley is alive with music and song..the union is witnessed by the whole kampong and God above.
May their marriage be blessed and may they live happily ever after....
All photos by Laman - in Ulu Medamit @ Rumah Aling
4th June 2012